Divorce mediation is a quality alternative for the divorce battle conducted in the legal arena.
Too often the decision to separate turns into an ugly divorce battle that consumes substantial financial resources, leaving in its wake scars and emotional wounds that will accompany the parties and their children many years after separation and divorce.
It does not have to be this way.
Despite the pain and the anger, separation of a couple does not have to be, and should not be conducted as a battle. After both partners decide to separate they should decide on the most suitable way for them to handle the process and address all issues deriving from the separation.
Mediation offers a process which is the opposite of the legal route. As a result, at the end of the process the parties can look in into each other’s eyes and continue on their separate ways.
The mediator guides the parties to agreements on material issues: child custody, alimony, visitation rights and division of assets. One of the goals of mediation is helping the parties engage in effective communication so that at the end of the process, and receipt of the divorce certificate, they will be able to conduct a dialogue on shared issues.
Mediation is a structured process that separates the various components of shared life: couplehood, family, parenting, property, joint household – into two separate units.
In and of itself, divorce does not have to be an ugly battle about division of resources, and of course should not be fought on the back of, or the heart of, the children.
Couples that are parents can separate from each other, but they will never disengage from joint parenting of their children. Studies show that children’s adaptation to divorce is influenced by two main factors: the parents’ ability to maintain respectful relations and communicate between them on all issues relating to the children’s needs, and continued stable relations with both parents. Family mediation aims to achieve these goals.